Thoughts on “Mommy Wars” – Pretty Wicked Moms Airing Soon!
Have you ever been judged as a mom? I’m sure we all have! Pretty Wicked Moms is a new Lifetime Show that takes a peek into the lives of beautiful, rich, and often mean mothers and shows first hand how often we mothers not only feel judged but make judgements as well. One of the Pretty Wicked Moms on the first episode makes a reference to “Mommy Wars” and it really is true. So often, we women compare ourselves with what is going on around us and think we aren’t good enough if we don’t do all the things everyone else might be doing.
I often feel this pressure to compete as well feeling that if I don’t give my children enough vacations, opportunities, extra curricular activities, the coolest clothes, if they aren’t the best behaved or on and on that somehow I’m not doing enough as a mother. This past weekend we traveled to New York and I had to try to juggle four little boys ages 6 and under on a five hour flight. In my eyes, my boys really did an exceptionally great job behaving as they spent over 10 hours total between the airport and on the plane with an hour and a half delay.It was hard for them to be in such a different environment where they could get drinks, snacks, go to the bathroom, play with all their toys, or have the freedom to roam like they have at home for such a long time.
While waiting in the airport there were several mid-life women around our family. It was interesting to me to see how differently each woman would respond to the same situation. One mom glared at us for any peep, another played and laughed with the kids, another walked off muttering “I just can’t take this anymore!!” as she passed us and others around constantly had their eyes on us watching every move. I felt judged that maybe my kids who were doing really, really great from my experience weren’t be quiet enough or sitting still as the onlookers might assume they should.
What experiences have you had where you felt judged by those around you?
Tune in to watch parenting like you’ve never seen before with the first episode of Pretty Wicked Moms on Tuesday, June 4, at 10:00 pm ET/PT on Lifetime
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This show sounds very interesting. Thanks for sharing!
I have no idea why they put something on like this.I guess people are getting bored with The Apprentice? I really don’t believe these reality shows are really reality!
I have not seen this show yet, but it might be fun to watch
This show looks silly
That sounds like a exhausting trip, but it sound like they handled well. Who cares what some of those other women think. I don’t know about the tv show it sounds a little odd.
It looks like another stupid reality show. I don’t watch shows like that.
Sounds a little intense and more of weird reality show than actual life.
Look good but already raised my three!
Hmm..idk about this show it seems like they are “Fake” Moms and probably are just putting on a show but I think I will watch it once and then see what I think.
I do not watch most reality TV except with Dancing with the Stars. I know there are a lot of shows out there but the comments that I hear about the Wives and who else are always negative. i try not to expose myself to negative behaviors.
sorry i am not a fan of reality tv….children today expect too much, are given too much have no manners, most of them….no one writes thank you notes anymore….the kids are running around, just the wkend a little boy was running around the horseshoe barefoot….good way to get hoof and mouth…..some people should not be mothers…or fathers for that matter
It is a pressure but really we must provide love! Other items are material and if they are not educational, food, clothing then they dont need it. Mothers always feel like their children should have the latest gadgets. I feel a child should earn it. A sense of accomplishment is a amazing quality in a child. Lol My daughter cryed for hours on a trip. I received all kinds of dirty looks. But I knew she was tired and probley getting sick. Of course they “try us” but the way we respond, we be what they learn
I love kids and they have just as much a right to be themselves as any of us do. If people have a problem with it then too bad!!!!
I had five kids… I can ONLY imagine what folks thought at times. BUT we had the tradition of doing breakfast out every sunday morn before Church, and we got compliments at the restaurant about how good they were. so we did SOMEthing right I guess. LOL It was HARD. I’m sort of happy ’bout my empty nest right now… so…. peaceful!
LOL, I’m looking forward to some quite in 18+ years. 😉
this looks like it will be very interesting but im not all about judging other people myself
This sounds like a great show! It’s great that you were able to travel with your kids and that they all did well. It’s too bad other people were so judgy, maybe they were having especially tough days – even so they could have been a bit kinder. It is nice that some of the other moms did play with the kids and tried to help you out.
I know there is a lot of pressure to be the perfect mom, and it can get stressful.
Well said!
I have always said that kids will be kids. I would be the one playing with them 🙂 and I say who cares what the snobby look givers think!
Lately it seems like Moms have been very judgmental of each other. I’m not surprised to see a show like this on the air. Like Liz commented, it’s sure to be something we cannot resist watching.
Wow! What a trip. I’m sure that you did fine and your kids are happy and healthy. Who cares about those that want to pass judgement…
People are wicked judge-y. I say if kids aren’t screaming and throwing stuff they are doing awesome. I am sure they did great and you should be proud of that!! Screw the naysayers!
It’s been a while since I had little ones so I can’t recall specific instances, but I am soooooo interested in watching this. It’s like a train wreck, I’m sure, but I can’t resist!
Just remember, you can please some of the people some of the time and all of the people none of the time! People can be so judgmental and from what I’ve observed, it gets 100000x worse when you have kids…ugh!
I know how you feel! I have dragged my kids all over beginning when they were young. I’ve had people judge me for how my kids behaved. Some of the times they weren’t doing great, but sometimes they were fine. One of the best pieces of advice I got about parenting was from a friend’s mom who said, “Just do the best you can and don’t worry about what others think.” 🙂
Wow! I can imagine how pressured you must have felt on your flight. I hope you enjoyed your NY trip nevertheless! People really should have no business judging when they themselves are poor examples!
Being a work outside of the home mom there is a ton of pressure to do it all and you never really can. It is easier to just not compare yourself to others. When I see a mom in a store having problems with her kids I don’t think oh you are failing, I’m thinking I know how you feel.
Oh, Lordy, that looks to be doozy of a show.
Don’t sweat the small stuff with four kids in the airport. They did fine and bless their hearts for having to go ten hours.
Sounds like an interesting show! But I do not try to keep up with the Jones, and I believe that it is good parenting to instill values in children,and not to spoil them and give them everything. I gave my son nice stuff, but I did not spoil him, and compare myself with others.