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Mommy Wars: How To End Them


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When my little lady was born she was bald. She took forever to grow any hair at all. Once she had enough on top to pull into the tiniest pig tails, I jumped at the chance. She would sit so still for me as I slicked her hair into her “bug antenna”, as we affectionately called them. I would cut out the elastics at night so I didn’t pull her hair. They just fit her spunky personality so well.


Then one day I was in the grocery store and an older woman stopped me. She asked if I had talked to my pediatrician about pulling my daughters hair like that, and did I realize that I was probably damaging her brain? She went on to tell me how appalling it is that mothers “like me” damage their daughters this way.


I was completely speechless. The logical side of me laughed my guts out, I may not be the smartest person in the world, but I do know that my daughters hair is not connected to her brain in any way. I also knew that if something were hurting or bothering my toddler she would sure have a lot to say about it. But the emotional side of me? I was crushed. To think that someone thought I was torturing my daughter and walking around with her in pain for a hairstyle? How many others had thought the same thing?

Have you ever been in a situation where you have been unfairly judged? I know that I have made rash judgments of other parents. Once you are on the opposite side of the situation, you really realize how unfairly you view others! I saw this video from Similac and I just wanted to shout my agreement at the screen.

Yes! A hundred times, yes! We have to start somewhere to end the cycle of judgement. We have to realize that every parent is doing the best they can.

Just imagine if we all picked one way to stop the mommy wars? We could really make some progress! For me? I am going to offer words of encouragement to moms I see battling toddler tantrums. We have all been there and yet I find I still want to roll my eyes when I see another parent doing the grocery store showdown. It would be so simple to look that parent in the eye and tell them that I have been there, that they are doing a good job. Share this video, I am so impressed by Similac’s message, even Hillary and Haylie Duff are on board to end the mommy wars, by working together we can end these hurtful judgements!

What is one thing you can do to end the mommy wars?

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Lena Burkut

Thursday 13th of August 2015

I would want to end the endless game of comparing whose kid does what earlier - maybe that's why don't have many mommy friends

Tiffany Cruz

Thursday 13th of August 2015

I hope mommy wars comes to an end. It has gotten really bad lately. Great post!

Rachel Everheart

Wednesday 12th of August 2015

Those PIGTAILS! And what an absolute doll you have! I had to formula feed as well...really just makes me wonder why we really are so competitive with each other. It takes a village for a reason!

Ty @ Mama of 3 Munchkins

Wednesday 12th of August 2015

It would be nice if everyone minded their own business and quit worrying about others.

Sabrina @ Dinner, then Dessert

Wednesday 12th of August 2015

As a new mom it is hard, there are so many judgments even from moms who say they don't judge. I just say something nice or nothing at all and leave it at that.

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