My Mommy Wars Story
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Being a mother is the best and absolute hardest job in the entire world. We are all parents raising children with individual needs; because of these differences, we all choose different parenting routes. Unfortunately, sometimes these differences lead to mommy wars. Ever experienced a time as a parent where you’ve felt judged or belittled by others? Well let me tell you, you’re not alone. Check out my mommy wars story and how I’ve overcome the judgement of others .
My Mommy Wars Story
Before I had children, I worked extremely hard in school to become a registered nurse. When asked what my profession was, I was always extremely proud to tell people that I was a nurse. After graduating from nursing school, I had the opportunity to work as a nurse at a behavioral health hospital. I loved the great sense of accomplishment this job provided.
When I found out that I was pregnant with my son, my husband and I counseled long and hard together about the next step in our lives. We decided that it would be in our family’s best interest for me to become a stay at home mom. And let me just say right now, there is nothing wrong with parents working outside of the home. Like I mentioned earlier, every family is different and has different circumstances. For our family, we felt it was best to have me stay at home.
When I informed my co-workers and friends of our decision, I got many belittling comments pertaining to my choice to become a stay at home mom. When questioned about my profession, I would almost feel embarrassed telling people that I was a stay at home mom. I would receive replies like “No, I mean, what do you do for work?” These comments made me feel like just being a mom wasn’t enough. In the eyes of society, I did not feel like an accomplished individual.
However, in the past three years that I’ve been a stay at home mom, I’ve realized that being a homemaker is the greatest blessing in my life. It doesn’t matter what the world thinks of me. Having my little so run up to me and say “I love you so much” is more praise than I could ever ask for. I still get to practice my nursing skills (we have many injuries and scraped knees on a daily basis), my children are happy, and I find joy and accomplishment knowing I’m doing the best that I can as a mother. I can honestly say that I now take pride in telling people that I’m a stay at home mom.
That’s what I absolutely love about Similac’s #EndMommyWars documentary trailer. Although we all choose to parent our children differently, we are all united in doing what’s best for our children. It’s time to stop the mommy wars and realize that we are all in this together. You guys should really check this trailer out!
Do you have a mommy wars story? Share your thoughts and feeling on Similac’s Facebook page using #EndMommyWars.
What’s your mommy wars story?
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I can relate. I might be a “Stay at home mom” but I certainly WORK all day! People don’t understand just what a full time blogger position might entail.
It’s pretty sad how judgmental people can be. I never understood the whole “Mommy Wars” thing. We all have the right to make what decisions are best for our families and shouldn’t have to worry about people questioning those choices. Moms should be supporting Moms.
i dislike seeing all the mom bashing online. We are all in his together trying to do the best thing for our own families. It’s okay to disagree but we don’t have to put each other down. Every story is unique
I think this is the best campaign. It’s so hard to be a mom without being judged.
Every family is different and I’m sure each of us will always choose what we think is best for our family. The least we can do is respect the decisions of others.
I agree that every family’s situation is different and no one should be judged for their career choices when they have kids! It’s a difficult decision and we should assume it wasn’t taken lightly!
Love this post. I have many moms belittle my parenting style. I have a child with special needs and most people like to say that I am too lenient on my child because of this.
I think everyone judges everyone else too much. SAHM is a hard job, I’m a WAHM and it’s rough. We all do what is best for our family and you did just that.
End the Mommy Wars indeed! Getting the chance to be a SAHM was the best experience ever. But every job isn’t for everybody. We just all need to get along, love our babies, and live well!
I was a stay at home Mom until my kids started school. I was surprised how many times i got negative feedback about staying home with the kids.
I always try to be supportive of other Moms. It is terrible that we face so much judgment among other mothers.
I am lucky that i get to work from home so i am able to be with my kids. I think is great if a woman wants to go to work. It depends on what works for each family.
I have always refused to participate in Mommy Wars and similar useless drama. I bottlefed by choice. It wasn’t a hot topic back when my first was born but when it became one years later people judged me.
I have never took part in mom wars, I think that people should NEVER judge others for choices of what is right of their family. We are all mothers whether we stay home or don’t.
I seriously have no idea why we can’t all just get along. It;s so silly how some moms judge each other.
I’ve always found it so amazing that so many women are still all up in each other’s mommy business. Everyone is different, and so is everyone’s parenting style.
I’ve never understood the mommy wars. Why do they feel the need to criticize or try to be better than other moms.
We have something in common…sort of! I have my nursing degree, but I never got to practice before staying home with my son. I appluad your decision!
I would say you’re extremely accomplished! You got to experience the best of both worlds too! I haven’t experienced anything like this but I am pregnant with our first so I’m sure it’s only a matter of time.
I also decided to be a stay at home mom when my son was born. I was older than most, he was born when I was 3 months shy of 30.Still I had people to tell me I needed to stay in my profession, also the health field, and let my child go to the daycare center at the hospital where I worked. i didn’t go back to work and it is absolutely the best decision I ever made. Having the time to go on field trips, volunteering at his school, getting him involved in sports…None of these things could have happened had I continued to work. And as you said, when your child runs up to you, hugs you, and says I love you, it makes it all worthwhile. Thank you for sharing!
Love this thanks for sharing!!